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Lisa Shield

Magical Thinking is Hazardous to Your Love Life!

Many accomplished women assume that, because they have been so successful in other areas of their life, they should also be successful at finding love.

Unfortunately, that’s not what’s happening.

A shocking number of talented, successful women today are struggling to find a partner who is a true match for them.

Maybe that sounds like you?

No matter how many hours you spend watching YouTube videos, listening to podcasts, and reading books, you’re still not connecting with the right men.

What is getting in the way for many of us, is that we have magical thinking when it comes to finding love.

Even after decades of failed relationships, we honestly believe that we are going to meet someone randomly, fall in love with them, and live happily ever after.

Or, we believe that God will bring the perfect person into our lives just because we’re so wonderful and we deserve it.

Or, we believe that we are supposed to post a dating profile and some pictures, sit back, and wait for Mr. Wonderful to message us.

I often wonder how intelligent, educated women, who have worked hard to accomplish everything else they have in life would buy into the notion that love is something that will just happen to them when they least expect it.

Still, every day I speak to very successful women who have done no work at all to improve this part of their lives who tell me they “just know it is going to happen.”

If only that were true.

I don’t know of any smart, successful people who are driven to succeed who don’t hire mentors and coaches to help them reach their goals and dreams sooner.

A great love coach is someone who has been there and done that and can give you a proven step-by-step strategy that will lead you straight to the love of your life.

She will help you put all of the puzzle pieces together AND give you the missing pieces so you can stop wasting time trying to figure this on your own.

She will hold you accountable and give you the tools you need to stay the course and stop quitting when the going gets tough.

My name is Lisa Shield and for the last two decades, I have been showing smart, successful women like you how to find true love.

If you are ready to take control of your love life and you want to learn more about how my step-by-step roadmap can help you find The Guardian of Your Soul, click this link to watch my free 45-minute presentation.

Stay to end to sign up for an introductory call with me or a member of my team.

If you are a woman who wants it all in love and in life, I can show you how to find it now!

Love,

Lisa Shield

Founder, Emotionally Naked Dating

P.S. If you’re ready for a real roadmap for finding true love, one that has worked for hundreds of savvy, successful, women like you, click here to watch my free 45-minute presentation.

Stay to the end because that’s where you can book a Breakthrough Session where we will explain exactly how we are going to help you find your guy.

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64-Year-Old University Professor Finds True Love in Six Weeks!

No one would EVER imagine that a beautiful, intelligent, charming, successful woman like Jane would have trouble attracting the right man.

But after settling for 33 years in two unsuccessful marriages, Jane intentionally chose to be single for eight years.

When she felt she was ready to meet someone new, she marched right back into the dating world and found herself a man with an impossible fear of intimacy.

They had an on-again, off-again relationship that lasted two years and, sadly, destroyed Jane’s self-confidence.

Because Jane is a teacher and loves to learn, she wound up spending countless and unnecessary hours of her life searching online for the answers to why she kept failing in her love life.

The list of love coaches she followed was long and included some of the top names in the industry including Katherine Woodward, Arielle Ford, and Claire Zammit.

Then, one day, she heard me being interviewed by another coach and took me up on my offer to have a Breakthrough Session to discuss how we could help her break the lifelong relationship patterns that were keeping her stuck so she could open her heart again and find true love.

In her exit interview, Jane said, “Lisa, I’ve done other programs and you learn a piece here and a piece there, but I wanted someone to get me from where I was to delivered.

My standards were high and, then, I met you and it was like check, check, check. You know your stuff and you were clear about it. You also had such confidence and certainty about what could happen if I worked with you, and that was it for me.

Choosing to coach with you was one of the very top best decisions I have ever made in my life.

After failing in her romantic relationships for over 35 years, Jane was determined to find true love and become a woman who has it all—a fulfilling career, deep friendships, a beautiful home, and a loving, devoted partner to walk side-by-side with her through life to the end of days.

Can you relate? If you are a successful, professional woman who is sick and tired of wasting precious time and you are ready to find a true partner, I invite you to book a call with my team now.

In one 60-minute call, we will show you how to break the patterns that have been causing you to choose the wrong partners and finally find true love for the rest of your life, just like Jane.

You can cross ‘meet my soulmate’ off your to-do list forever!

Love,

Are You Making These Fatal Mistakes that Push Men Away?

So many women don’t realize that they are doing subtle things that turn men off and push them away.

These blindspots are keeping you single.

If you don’t know what these behaviors are, you could be sitting across from an amazing man on a date and not even know what you’re doing wrong.

There won’t be a connection because he won’t find you emotionally attractive and want to open up to you.

Just as we have things that turn us off about men, men are sensitive to certain behaviors in women that turn them off.

Many women aren’t conscious of what these behaviors are.

They go on date after date, fail to make a connection, and wonder where all the good men are.

You can be on a date and go through your whole spiel about how you’re ready for a relationship with a secure, emotionally available man, but if you do not have an intimate understanding of what turns a man off or on, quality men can tell that you’re not ready for the relationship you say you want.

If men lose interest in you quickly, if they ghost you or don’t ask you out again, or if they only come on to you sexually, you are doing one of several things to turn them off.

So what are those things you might be doing to push good men away? Stay tuned!

In the next few days, I will be sending out a series of emails where I explore some of the biggest things women do to turn off men.

You can talk about the Law of Attraction all day long, but before quality men will find you attractive, you have to first understand what you’re doing that is unattractive.

If you don’t figure this out, men won’t open up to you, you will never hear from them again, and you will be left wondering why.

Like many of the women I talk to, you will tell yourself this keeps happening because there just aren’t any quality men who want to commit, men are intimidated by your success, or whatever other excuses you make up to make yourself feel better.

Until you start to understand the subtle things that turn quality men off, you won’t know how to turn them on! 😉

Wanna know the great news?

These are ALL easy things to fix.

Not only that, once you learn the beautiful process I teach my women to create loving, lasting, Guardian of Your Soul relationships with men, you will have your pick of fabulous men to choose from.

I don’t give you tricks, scripts, and strategies for finding love.

I show you how to open your heart, get emotionally naked, and attract true love.

Do I have your attention?

Yours nakedly,

The #1 Behavior that turns men off…

Alright, Ladies,

Let’s take a look at the number one thing women do that turns men off and pushes them away.

This is a BIG one, and it is something EVERY woman does…including you.

We shame men.

Without even knowing it, when a man lets us down, we express our disappointment in a way that makes him feel small.

What a man wants more than anything is to be our hero.

So when he feels he’s disappointed you, he’s embarrassed and ashamed.

This is NOT how you want to make a man feel.

Let’s look at how this works.

Have you ever felt upset with a man who told you he would call at a certain time and then didn’t?

The next day he sends you a text explaining what happened.

You’re willing to give him the benefit of the doubt, but you also feel it’s important to let him know that it better not happen again.

You might think this is a perfectly reasonable thing to say.

Of course, you have every right to express your feelings about what happened.

But if you say it with the wrong tone of voice and in a way that makes him feel he was a disappointment to you, you will shame him.

A smart, self-aware woman never wants to make a man feel shame because she knows that if she does that, he will never feel safe opening up to her.

When men feel shame, it is emasculating.

If you don’t want to emasculate men, you have to learn how to express your feelings without shaming them.

And here’s the most important part of all: a real man who has great self-esteem simply won’t put up with a woman talking to him that way.

The moment she exhibits that behavior, he’ll walk away and find a woman who knows how to treat a man with respect.

If you want to learn how to stop shaming men and become the kind of woman great men are looking for, click this link to watch my FREE 45-minute presentation.

If you like what you hear, one of my team members or I will jump on a call with you.

Also, keep reading these emails because I have lots more to tell you about how you might be turning men off!

Yours in nakedness,

The Second Massive Mistake You’re Making That Turns Off Men

Today I want to introduce you to another female behavior that turns off men.

This is one I was guilty of.

When I went out on my 96 first dates, one of the big mistakes I was making was that I didn’t show enough interest in my dates.

They couldn’t tell if I liked them or not.

Like a lot of women, I didn’t want to lead a man on if I wasn’t sure how I felt about him, but how could I know if I liked a man if I didn’t at least try to connect with him?

Yes, there were many men I knew I didn’t want to see again.

But several of the men I would have gone out with a second time never asked me out again.

If you aren’t sending a man clear signals that you are interested in getting to know him, even if he likes you, he won’t pursue you.

He doesn’t want to get rejected any more than you do.

Like many women, you can tell yourself that you deserve a confident man who knows what he wants and pursues you, but if you don’t show interest, he will simply reach out to any of the countless other women online.

After the date, you can always say “no” if you decide you don’t want to see him again, but why not just give it your all and see what happens?

The trick to all of this is to become more open-hearted and more comfortable in your own skin.

When that happens, your walls will come down and you will be more playful and engaged with your dates.

It might seem as if you are suddenly attracting better men.

But what’s really happening is that your energy is more open and men can feel it.

If you want to discover how to open up and become more playful so men find you more approachable, watch my FREE 45-minute presentation and let’s jump on a call!

Xx,

The Third Behavior that Turns Men Off…and is VERY easy to fix!

Enjoying this blog series?

I’ve received wonderful responses from many of you saying this information is enlightening.

I’ve also received messages from women who were outraged and want to continue putting all the blame on men.

When you do that, you throw your power away!

Sure, there’s a lot men can do to improve the way they relate to us, but you can’t change other people.

The one person you have the power to change is YOU.

If you’re like most of my clients, you’re a powerful, ambitious woman who has accomplished almost everything she wants in life.

It is NOT your style to sit back and blame others for what’s not working.

You look at a situation, assess what you need to do to get the job done and do it.

Dating is no different.

You have tremendous power with men, way more than you could ever imagine… if you know how to harness that power and use it in the right way.

Right now, you are literally throwing away one opportunity after another and you don’t even know it.

By using my tried-and-true techniques for creating a deep emotional connection with men, my female clients are astounded by how easy it is to attract a steady stream of high quality, relationship-ready men who have no trouble opening up to them.

With that said, let’s look at another huge mistake women make that turns off men: being in your head, and not in your heart.

Most women I coach have been in the business world so long they treat their dates like a job interview.

They are quick to tell me, “I can talk to anyone. That’s what I do all day at work.”

I don’t doubt that you are a wonderful conversationalist.

But if your first dates never turn into second or third dates, it’s because you are so focused on assessing if this man is worthy of your time and trouble and figuring out what he’s “looking for in a relationship” that you are taking all the fun out of it.

How many times have you walked away from a first meeting with a new man feeling like you were pulling teeth?

That’s because you were in your head the whole time…and so was he.

When you’re in your head, there is no room for playfulness, fun, and spontaneity.

These are the magic ingredients for sparking a connection, the kind of connection that brings a man into his heart and makes him want to open up with you.

After each bad date, you tell yourself, “Why do I keep attracting all these emotionally unavailable men?”

You might not believe me right now, but they aren’t all emotionally blocked.

In fact, most men have few people they feel comfortable opening up to, and they are craving this kind of connection.

They just aren’t connecting with YOU.

In just a few short weeks, I can show you how to open your heart and create a deep, playful, emotionally naked connection so you will have your pick of amazing men.

Still skeptical?

Click this link to watch my FREE 45-minute presentation to learn more.

If you like what you hear, you can jump on a call with one of my team members or me so we can show you how to get this solved.

The Guardian of Your Soul is looking for you right now.

Let us help you open your heart so he can find you!

Yours nakedly,

3 Online Dating Hacks Every Woman Should Know (Especially During the Pandemic)

If you have any intention of dating during the pandemic, you need to be dating online.

Right now, it is the only way to meet someone.

Many of you are feeling resistant to online dating, but believe me when I say that this situation isn’t nearly as bad as it seems.

As a busy professional woman, you finally have the time to date.

And because we are being cautious about who we meet, men are much more open to having phone conversations and video chats than ever before.

This is wonderful because you don’t have to waste hours getting dressed up and going out to meet them. You can screen them from the comfort of your own home.

It would be easy right now to feel sorry for yourself and talk yourself out of dating. Please don’t do that! Seize this opportunity to date in a new way.

Over the past nine months, I have encouraged my clients to create lovely connections with men over FaceTime and Zoom. A surprising number of those women are now in relationships with these men.

And here’s the spectacular news: just as many of my clients have found relationships during COVID as they did before COVID.

Not only did they refuse to let COVID stop them from going for their dream, but they also used this new way of dating to their advantage and found true love.

With this in mind, I thought I would share three of my favorite online dating hacks to help you stay positive and proactive during the pandemic while searching for your man.

Don’t Take Anything Personally

You and I both know that nothing can stir us up like dating online. We get annoyed because we either get way too many messages or not enough. Men ask for our phone numbers and never call. Or, they text morning, noon, and night like they’re our new best friend and we haven’t even met them. They also start dropping sexual innuendos right away to find out how easy we are.

You might have heard people say, “Don’t take it personally,” but when it comes to dating, this can feel impossible to do. That’s why it’s such a great way to learn how to do it.

Online dating will bring your insecurities to the surface where you can see them and take responsibility for them. The more you can make peace with your own shortcomings, the less reactive you will feel.

The way to apply not taking anything personally to dating is by watching how you make other people’s actions mean something about you.

Let’s say a man you really like suddenly stops texting you. Watch your reaction. Do you take it personally, blame yourself for why he stopped, and feel bad? Or, do you not take it personally, tell yourself it wasn’t a match, and let it go?

Not taking anything personally is central to creating a peaceful and harmonious relationship both with yourself and a partner. If you want a deeper understanding of how this works, read The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz. It will change your life!

Take the Feminine Lead

Bumble made it acceptable for women to make the first move. Still, many dating experts say that you must lean back and wait for men to chase you.

I am from a different camp. I would be insulted if some 35-year-old dating coach told me to ‘lean back’ and wait for a man to chase me. Sorry but that ain’t gonna happen. Not with me…and I don’t think you should do that either.

I am much more aligned with Warren Farrell who wrote an outdated but highly illuminating book called Why Men Are the Way They Are. If you don’t want to wade through the book, there is a wonderful 2-hour interview with the author that is only available on Audible.com.

In his book, Farrell says that women who approach men will get rejected in the same way men who approach women get rejected. BUT because they are not just choosing from the men who approach them, they will be much more likely to connect with the kind of man they really want.

Online dating and dating apps make it easy for you to take what I call The Feminine Lead. If you really think about it, both men and women take the lead in a relationship. They just do it in different ways. Men tend to be more direct: “I’ll pick you up for dinner at 7:00 pm.” Women tend to be more inviting and suggestive: “I would love it if you could pick me up at 7:00 pm.” Or, “Would you be able to pick me up at 7:00?” It’s really that simple.

When making the first move online, I advise my clients to say something short and playful to catch a man’s attention. A simple, “What’s a guy like you doing on a site like this ;-)” Or, “What’s a girl gotta do to get a date with you ;-)”

Unless you are going to write something extremely original and playful about what he’s written, don’t make the mistake of referencing something from his profile. Although many other coaches advise doing this, it’s boring and it won’t stand out like my previous suggestions.

Once you’ve taken The Feminine Lead, sit back, and see what happens. The one thing you don’t want to do is to reach out again if he doesn’t respond.

Date Several Men at Once

A lot of women have resistance to dating more than one man at a time, but I promise you it is one of the smartest things you can do. In the past, most of us couldn’t date multiple people because we were only being asked out on so many dates. With online dating, you have way more choices.

Think about how many times you’ve invested weeks, months, or years getting to know each guy, only to have it go nowhere. If you spend 6 weeks with one guy, 4 months with another, and a year and a half with someone else, that adds up to nearly two and a half years. If you had been dating several men at once, it would have been different.

You would have been able to compare all of these men to each other and see that some of them weren’t worth your time and trouble. If you get anxious when you start liking a man, it would help with your anxiety. Let’s say one man wasn’t contacting you, you would still have dates planned with the others. You could also sit back and see who is really showing up for you.

If you are looking for a loving, lasting relationship—and especially if you want children—the one thing you don’t have is time to waste. At the end of my 12-week course, my clients tell me that one of the best things they did was to date multiple men.

Even if you aren’t willing to meet men in person right now, you can practice these three dating hacks during the pandemic. When you focus on making improvements in the way you date, dating becomes more exciting and rewarding and you will become even more attractive to men. The more attractive you become, the more choices you have until, one day very soon, you will be on a Zoom call and realize that you’ve met The Guardian of Your Soul.

If you want to know more about my work, please watch my free 45-minute presentation. Many women have told me it’s the best one they’ve ever seen. If you like what you hear, we’d love to jump on a Breakthrough Call so we can show you how to find true love NOW!

Nakedly yours,

The Real Tragedy of Love

This perfectly describes what I see in many women, myself included. We’re reaching for love with one hand and we’re pushing it away with the other.

We know it’s what we want more than anything in the world. And yet for many of us, we are terrified of actually getting it. There’s the fear of having it and there’s the fear of not having it. The fear of never getting it, and the fear of getting it and losing it. And so we reach for love with one hand and push it away with the other.

So, how do you stop guarding your heart and pushing love away?? How do you make sure that, when an amazing man sits down in front of you on a date, you don’t blow it?

You need to get out of your head and into your heart!

One big way you might be sabotaging yourself from getting what you want is that you get up in your head about it.

The minute you start really wanting something, your fear of getting hurt or disappointment kicks in and sabotages it.

You start second-guessing yourself. You start shaming yourself. You start anxiously asking yourself if you are good/pretty/young enough.

This voice in your head takes over, and it acts like it’s a friend but really it’s an enemy. I call this the Frenemy. This is the voice that holds you back from getting what you want in life. It tries to protect you from getting your heart broken again. Your Frenemy isn’t trying to be mean, its behavior is learned. It knows that, if you don’t take risks, you won’t get hurt. So, it keeps you from taking risks by stirring up blame, shame, criticism, and confusion. This way, you won’t let your guard down and allow someone to get close to you.

But if you keep following your Frenemy down that rabbit hole, another opportunity that you waited so long for will pass you by.

You will find yourself in the presence (albeit at 6 feet apart) of a guy who truly has potential, you won’t be able to make a real connection with him.

A truly self-actualized quality man is going to be looking for the same in a woman. No matter how hard you try to hide it, if you are anxious and insecure, he will see it.

People who have done their work are looking for others who have done their work.

This could be why you’re not getting to second or third dates. The connection either quickly disappears or never really happens. So you might want to look at this. It could be that the quality men out there are looking for a woman who is also in her power.

And that’s not you if you are leaking insecure, anxious energy.

So how can you stop this from happening? How do you get there? How do you become that self-actualized woman that is truly in her power?

You must choose to become Emotionally Naked.

Emotional Nakedness is when you come out from behind your walls and allow someone to know the real you. You don’t tell a man what you think he wants to hear. You speak your truth, lovingly and from your heart without apology or shame. When you do this, that man sitting across from you or reading your text can feel that you are in your heart and it will bring him into his heart. When you do this, he won’t be able to get you off of his mind. He will want to call you again and again for the rest of his life.

Of course, this isn’t easy to do. Anyone who has been hiding behind walls and listening to the voice of her Frenemy for most of her life isn’t going to just stop feeling the need to be guarded. Taking down your walls is a gradual process.

That’s where dating comes in. When I work with clients, I show them how to use every part of the dating process to open up to men. Every interaction they have with a man is another opportunity to become more open and heartfelt.

My women do this in their profiles, text messages, on phone conversations, and on their dates. The key to doing this successfully is to stop listening to your Frenemy and start to listen to another voice inside of you, the Voice of Love.

You can’t just do this with a bunch of feminine techniques or strategies for the perfect text messages or the right things to say. Those things are important to know, but real emotional nakedness is an embodiment thing. It’s a mindset.

And what you need for that is a clear step-by-step plan. Someone who can help you find the missing pieces and finally get this puzzle solved.

I can show you how to take down your walls and stop the endless push-pull cycle that’s been making you miserable and sabotaging your chances at real love. Showing women how to be their true selves with the man of their dreams, the Guardian of Their Souls, is my wish for every woman on the planet.

And I’ve been lucky enough to see this happen with hundreds of my clients, faster than they ever imagined.

Please, click this link and watch my free 45-minute presentation to hear more about how this happens. If it speaks to you, let’s jump on a call and make a plan for your breakthrough.

The results I get still blow me away. I’ve seen women who have never had a successful relationship find true love before the program is even over.

This is a perfect time to do this, so don’t wait. Everything you’ve always wanted is just on the other side of that call.

I look forward to hearing from you!

Nakedly Yours,