This perfectly describes what I see in many women, myself included. We’re reaching for love with one hand and we’re pushing it away with the other.
We know it’s what we want more than anything in the world. And yet for many of us, we are terrified of actually getting it. There’s the fear of having it and there’s the fear of not having it. The fear of never getting it, and the fear of getting it and losing it. And so we reach for love with one hand and push it away with the other.
So, how do you stop guarding your heart and pushing love away?? How do you make sure that, when an amazing man sits down in front of you on a date, you don’t blow it?
You need to get out of your head and into your heart!
One big way you might be sabotaging yourself from getting what you want is that you get up in your head about it.
The minute you start really wanting something, your fear of getting hurt or disappointment kicks in and sabotages it.
You start second-guessing yourself. You start shaming yourself. You start anxiously asking yourself if you are good/pretty/young enough.
This voice in your head takes over, and it acts like it’s a friend but really it’s an enemy. I call this the Frenemy. This is the voice that holds you back from getting what you want in life. It tries to protect you from getting your heart broken again. Your Frenemy isn’t trying to be mean, its behavior is learned. It knows that, if you don’t take risks, you won’t get hurt. So, it keeps you from taking risks by stirring up blame, shame, criticism, and confusion. This way, you won’t let your guard down and allow someone to get close to you.
But if you keep following your Frenemy down that rabbit hole, another opportunity that you waited so long for will pass you by.
You will find yourself in the presence (albeit at 6 feet apart) of a guy who truly has potential, you won’t be able to make a real connection with him.
A truly self-actualized quality man is going to be looking for the same in a woman. No matter how hard you try to hide it, if you are anxious and insecure, he will see it.
People who have done their work are looking for others who have done their work.
This could be why you’re not getting to second or third dates. The connection either quickly disappears or never really happens. So you might want to look at this. It could be that the quality men out there are looking for a woman who is also in her power.
And that’s not you if you are leaking insecure, anxious energy.
So how can you stop this from happening? How do you get there? How do you become that self-actualized woman that is truly in her power?
You must choose to become Emotionally Naked.
Emotional Nakedness is when you come out from behind your walls and allow someone to know the real you. You don’t tell a man what you think he wants to hear. You speak your truth, lovingly and from your heart without apology or shame. When you do this, that man sitting across from you or reading your text can feel that you are in your heart and it will bring him into his heart. When you do this, he won’t be able to get you off of his mind. He will want to call you again and again for the rest of his life.
Of course, this isn’t easy to do. Anyone who has been hiding behind walls and listening to the voice of her Frenemy for most of her life isn’t going to just stop feeling the need to be guarded. Taking down your walls is a gradual process.
That’s where dating comes in. When I work with clients, I show them how to use every part of the dating process to open up to men. Every interaction they have with a man is another opportunity to become more open and heartfelt.
My women do this in their profiles, text messages, on phone conversations, and on their dates. The key to doing this successfully is to stop listening to your Frenemy and start to listen to another voice inside of you, the Voice of Love.
You can’t just do this with a bunch of feminine techniques or strategies for the perfect text messages or the right things to say. Those things are important to know, but real emotional nakedness is an embodiment thing. It’s a mindset.
And what you need for that is a clear step-by-step plan. Someone who can help you find the missing pieces and finally get this puzzle solved.
I can show you how to take down your walls and stop the endless push-pull cycle that’s been making you miserable and sabotaging your chances at real love. Showing women how to be their true selves with the man of their dreams, the Guardian of Their Souls, is my wish for every woman on the planet.
And I’ve been lucky enough to see this happen with hundreds of my clients, faster than they ever imagined.
Please, click this link and watch my free 45-minute presentation to hear more about how this happens. If it speaks to you, let’s jump on a call and make a plan for your breakthrough.
The results I get still blow me away. I’ve seen women who have never had a successful relationship find true love before the program is even over.
This is a perfect time to do this, so don’t wait. Everything you’ve always wanted is just on the other side of that call.
I look forward to hearing from you!