You’ve heard the expression, “you have to kiss a lot of frogs to find a prince,” right? Like a lot of modern dating advice, this gem comes from a Fairy Tale. The Frog Prince to be exact, written by renowned relationship experts The Brothers Grimm.
Well, I have a few things to say about that. First of all, that is not how the story went. That Princess kissed one frog, one time. It’s not like she had a thing for frogs and went around frog-kissing, thinking to herself, “One of these is bound to be a Prince who was cursed by an evil Fairy!”
Imagine if someone had actually given that piece of advice to that Princess. How many years do you think she would keep kissing frogs before she said, “I don’t think this is how you find a Prince.”
Do you think she’d keep it up for years? Probably not. And neither should you.
Trial and error is for rearranging your living room, making a soufflé, or developing a vaccine. It’s not for relationships. If you’re just trying at finding love, then you’re probably making the same mistakes over and over again.
The truth is, the more time you spend in trial and error with love, the more you damage yourself. The more you repeat negative relationship patterns, the more negative energy you bring into your life. The more heartbreak you have, the more closed your heart becomes, and the less likely you become to EVER find love at all.
Nobody teaches us how to navigate this stuff. Men and women have completely different biology. We have completely different societal conditioning. Mix that into a cocktail with our own individual emotional baggage, and we are basically designed to fail.
Which is why the biggest mistake that you can make in looking for love is trying to figure it out on your own.
There is a lot more to dating and finding love than you might know. If you’ve read some books and gone to therapy, you’ve probably grown and learned a few things. But those things only move the needle slightly.
If you decided you wanted to climb Mount Everest, you wouldn’t just read a few books and then try to climb it, would you? If you did, you’d be leaving the outcome up to chance. No, you wouldn’t go up that mountain without a guide.
Somebody who knows the geography of that mountain like the back of their hand. Someone who knows the path to the top and every step along the way. Someone to hold your hand and guide you on the journey. Someone who knows the process intimately, and can answer all of your questions about it. Perhaps over a nice warm cup of Yak milk.
I spent 10 years of my life working, studying, and struggling to crack the codes of the dating process so that you don’t have to. With structure, process, and guidance, most of my clients find love within 6 to 12 months. Investing in a professional dating coach is one of the absolute best things you can do for yourself!
The return on investment is almost too great to measure. But here’s a couple of stats:
–12 of my clients got married last year
–Millions of frogs went unmolested
I can make this happen for you. If you’d like to know more, get yourself on my schedule and let me take you on a FREE one-hour Breakthrough Session. And seriously, forget about all this frog-kissing business. Most of my clients find true love within 6 months to a year.
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I know where the Princes are. Looking forward to connecting with you!