Hey Naked Daters!
You’ve probably heard me talk about radical responsibility. Yup, I’m gonna talk about it again. And probably a few more times.
I cannot exaggerate the importance of really embracing personal responsibility.
If you are not getting what you want in life, love, or whatever else is failing you, making that shift is the absolute biggest game-changer out there.
This is especially true in the dating world.
And, it’s not an easy thing to do on your own, because most of us are the walking wounded. You take this pain that is left from old relationships and carry it around with you.
And because old pain wants to be heard, it intrudes on your current relationships, and it tries to get resolution there. When it doesn’t, it creates new pain. And so on, and so on, and so on.
If you’re striking out with guys and you keep blaming the men, it’s time to take another look at the situation.
Because here is the bottom line: you’re the common denominator in all of your relationships.
When I was trying to work out issues with my ex-husband, all we did was trigger each other. It was miserable and a constant struggle.
What I learned from all of that pain we inflicted on each other was this:
“I had been focusing on what was wrong with HIM so I didn’t have to take responsibility for how my own life was working.”
When I began dating again after my divorce, I decided I was going to work through all my ‘stuff’ so I wouldn’t put it on another partner. I wanted to go in free and clear so we could just have fun. Besides, why would I want to be with the kind of emotionally unevolved partner who would let me put my stuff on him?
Once I made that shift to taking radical responsibility, everything changed.
I became less reactive and defensive. I stopped taking things personally. I began to care for myself and give myself what I needed.
If I got upset, I dealt with it on my own by allowing myself to feel my feelings. I would ask myself, “Lisa, what’s going on inside of you? What story are you creating? What do you need to give yourself?”
The more I practiced taking responsibility for my own emotions and keeping my side of the street clean, the more my relationships began to change. My relationship with my father, my brother, myself…
…and with the men that I started to meet.
I started to attract a whole different caliber of man because I was no longer codependent and playing the victim. By the time I met my husband, I had healed at a deep level and let go of much of my reactivity.
And when you take all that baggage out of a relationship, there is so much more space for connecting, naked soul to naked soul.
Learning to take responsibility for myself and keep my side of the street clean was an invaluable part of becoming the woman I am today and attracting a guardian of my soul. It isn’t easy to do this work on your own. I know because I had great mentors and teachers along the way who guided me, in the same way, I can help guide you.
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Yours in Nakedness,