Remember when you put your mom’s lace handkerchief on your head and then walked down the hallway, step-touch-step-touch with a broom?
Maybe you had on your grandma’s flowy nightgown and let its extra length drag behind you like a train on a Christian Dior gown.
In the magical lore of love, nothing set your little girl heart aflutter like dreaming of your wedding day.
Mine too… which makes it even more tragic that 50% of all first marriages end in divorce.
Yeah, sorry to bring it down. But strap in; it gets worse.
Sixty-seven percent of second marriages and seventy-four percent of third marriages end in divorce.
That means that after the first one, there is an even greater chance your next marriage will fail.
Why do the divorce rates keep going up?
Here’s the deal. When most people go through a divorce, they’re filled with heartache, rejection, and disappointment.
So, they read a few books, go to some counseling, and then they start to feel better and think they’ve got it all figured out. But 67 or 74 times out of 100 they haven’t solved anything. Even if they understand what went wrong, that doesn’t mean they know how to stop it from happening again.
You don’t want to become another victim of delusional optimism. This is when you TELL yourself that you’ve learned your lessons and that it won’t happen again, but you have no real proof that you won’t do it again.
I get it. You need to feel positive and hopeful, but you also must be realistic.
If you’ve had one failed relationship after the other, you must do the deeper work to stop it from happening again.
What is “the deeper work”?
First, you must hire the best dating expert so you can get a true picture of what’s been stopping you from finding love. Trying to do this on your own is like Googling abdominal pain and deciding you have indigestion only to wind up in the emergency room the next day with a burst appendix. You might think you know what you’re doing wrong, but I wouldn’t count on it.
Next, you need a proven, step-by-step strategy for going on dates and breaking the repeating patterns that have been keeping you stuck. Just because you tell yourself you need to look for different qualities in a partner, doesn’t automatically mean you are going to be attracted to someone who has those qualities. It isn’t easy to switch from being attracted to narcissistic, emotionally unavailable, anxious, or avoidant partners to being attracted to ones who are available and secure. In the beginning, people who are safe and ready for a relationship might bore you. You won’t have to work hard to get their attention so they won’t feel as challenging or exciting as unavailable people do. If you aren’t careful, you can easily fall back into old habits. With time, patience, and the right support system, you will meet someone who feels challenging and exciting in a good way. He or she will excite you not by playing games but by holding you to a higher standard and challenging you to become an even better version of yourself. Best of all, this person will make you feel stable and secure.
I have a very dear friend who’s husband suddenly left her and asked he for a divorce. Despite how beautiful, intelligent, and extraordinary she is, she just couldn’t see what he was trying to tell her for two years. She sees it now, but it’s too late. The saddest part is that she’s been here before.
You don’t want this to be you. You don’t want to go into your next relationship with the same behaviors that brought about the demise of your last one.
That’s where I come in.
As a dating expert and master coach, I do more than just help you see what went wrong. In my three-month program, I take you by the hand and help you dismantle these destructive habits step-by-step.
I give you a proven method to stop finding a partner to play the same dysfunctional game with, and start finding the guardian of your soul.
My clients are smart successful women who come to me with baggage and scars and hopes and fears, and as they go through this process, they have amazing transformations. Now they have a recipe and roadmap to attract their true soulmate.
And that’s exactly what they do. In the most amazing way. Many of them find it before my 3-month program is even over.
You can too. If you’ve been through a divorce, I know you never want to go through that again. You don’t want to risk becoming another statistic.
You could keep trying to do this on your own. But first, I want to ask you one question:
If you met the man of your dreams tomorrow, how much time would you have left to spend with him?
Twenty years? Thirty? Fifty, if you’re lucky? Those years go by in a heartbeat, and I know you don’t want to waste another moment of your precious time.
I look forward to hearing from you!
Yours in Nakedness,