In this episode of “Finding the Guardian of Your Soul,” relationship coach Lisa Shield discusses the pitfalls of trying to fix or change one’s partner in a relationship. She reflects on her own experience with her ex-husband, illustrating how focusing on fixing him detracted from her own self-growth and relationship satisfaction. Lisa explains the concept of codependency and how it manifests in relationships, leading to stagnation and unfulfillment. She emphasizes the importance of self-responsibility and encourages women to evaluate their past relationships to understand their patterns and make healthier choices in the future. Lisa introduces her Emotionally Naked dating program, which focuses on helping individuals prioritize self-improvement and set standards for their partners, aiming for relationships that foster mutual growth and respect. The episode is a call to action for listeners to stop settling and start envisioning and working towards a partnership where both individuals elevate each other.
In this episode of “Finding the Guardian of Your Soul,” host Lisa Shield delves into the often overlooked and taxing endeavor of trying to fix or change men in relationships. Lisa, a relationship expert, shares her personal journey and the important lessons she’s learned along the way about recognizing and overcoming codependency in relationships.
Highlights:
1. Personal Reflection on Past Relationships: Lisa discusses her first marriage and how persistent financial disagreements highlighted deeper issues of codependency and unmet expectations.
2. The Codependency Trap: Explains how codependency is a form of people addiction, where both partners rely on each other to fill emotional voids, leading to stagnation and mutual unhappiness.
3. Impact on Men: Discusses how efforts to fix or change a man can feel emasculating and create an unhealthy power imbalance, ultimately damaging the relationship.
4. Steps to Break Free: Emphasizes the importance of self-improvement and taking personal responsibility as crucial steps towards attracting a partner who is a true equal and not a project.
5. Final Five Concept: Introduces the concept of the “Final Five,” a list of non-negotiable attributes that one must look for in a partner to avoid settling for less than they deserve. Lisa concludes by inviting listeners to visit her website, join the Facebook group “Finding The Guardian of Your Soul,” and consider her emotionally naked dating course for deeper relationship transformation.
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