Nice, Avoidant Men are still just Avoidant Men.

Nice, Avoidant Men are still just Avoidant Men.

Cassie’s back with Lisa to dish about the latest pattern she’s noticed happening with the women moving through the 12-wk Emotionally Naked Dating course, and probably women everywhere! Two things keep cropping up– 1. You may see a red flag with a guy you’re dating, but it’s hard to close that door because he’s just so dang nice! And… 2. Not all avoidant men are jerks! Sometimes avoidant men are so incredibly nice, it’s easy to lose track of all the time you’re wasting dating them! Let’s face it, as much as we may like him, that guy needs to do his own work and you need to move on! Cassie shines a light on how coaching can help you recognize an avoidant early on, and ask the right questions to see if he has what it takes to be the Guardian of Your Soul.

What You’ll Hear In This Episode:

  • How does an avoidant man’s behavior shift from the beginning of dates to when things get a little more comfortable? 
  • What makes an avoidant man want to get in a relationship in the first place? 
  • Women rationalize this behavior more when he’s “nice”.
  • These nice avoidants seem to have every piece except for the consistent interest and commitment, keeping a woman sticking around and hoping he will change. 
  • In the Emotionally Naked Dating course, you’ll hearn how to ask the right questions to move things forward for a future together, or if they’re going to bolt. 
  • Movies and TV shows give us false ideals by showing super avoidant men magically changing their whole lifestyle if/when the right woman walks by. That isn’t real.
  • Just because things are better than your last relationship, doesn’t mean it’s the best option for you. Are you settling for less than what you deserve?
  • How coaching can help you look for consistency, healthy progression of the relationship, and words and actions that match. 
  • When a man shuts down, it’s important to remember it has nothing to do with you.

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  • “When you are a woman who has done some work, you can see ‘oh, this man is avoidant. Things have changed.’ ” – Cassie 
  • “It’s almost like they have one foot in– but they’re not really in.” – Lisa
  • “It takes work on the man’s part, not just the right woman walking past.” – Lisa
  • “One of the things we work on in the course is actually encouraging our women to ask questions and push things forward to see if this is just monogamous dating, or if there’s really a future there.” – Lisa 
  • “The most important thing to look for is consistency and behavior over time, progression of the relationship, and that words and actions match.” – Lisa 
  • “When the man shuts down or to the extent that he shuts down, it’s important to remember it has nothing to do with you.” – Lisa