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GITRMM ep 40: Are We Doomed If Our Core Values Are Different?

GITRMM ep 40: Are We Doomed If Our Core Values Are Different?

How do you navigate dating someone when your core values don’t align exactly? Lisa and Benjamin meet this hot topic head on, and discuss the delicate nature of getting clear about your core values, so you can be clear on whether the person you’re dating shares those same values. When two people have different core values a partnership can be challenging. With so many divisive issues and the recent news of Roe v. Wade being overturned, you may find yourself standing in murky waters. Lisa and Benjamin take this episode to explore how two people can learn to come together with differing issues, and when to know that it’s time to end things. Can two people actually be the Guardian of each other’s Soul with differing core values?

What You’ll Hear In This Episode:

  • Our core values are what make up the matrix of our being. They are deeper than just thoughts or opinions, and our core values typically don’t change with the wind. 
  • It takes effort, but it is possible to navigate to the goodness of the person and see that both people are usually trying to do what they think is good for the world. 
  • Yes, it is very, very difficult for two people who have diverging core values to be in an intimate relationship. 
  • Lisa and Benjamin talk about their shared core values- one being that neither wanted children. But what would it look like if someone changed their mind? 
  • Opposites don’t always attract. Sometimes being on the same page is the best way to be when it comes down to these very big, personal, and divisive issues. 
  • Being the Guardian of someone’s Soul doesn’t mean you give up your life to live theirs. 
  • What should you do when the differing opinions are so big that it just seems unfixable? 

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Quotes

  • “I think the difference is that in a lot of dating books, they say to get the ring and the relationship will follow. And it’s just the opposite. It’s having that relationship and getting the ring.” – Benjamin 
  • “Core values are really what make up the matrix of our being.” – Benjamin
  • “I think it’s always possible to navigate to the goodness of the other person and to have the idea that both people, even on either end of the spectrum, have the same goal. Which is to do good in the world, and hopefully leave it a better place.” – Benjamin
  • “It would be very, very difficult for two people who have diverging core values to be in an intimate relationship.” – Benjamin 
  • “Being the guardian of someone’s soul also means that the other person deeply wants to be the Guardian of Your Soul. So it’s that mutual connection, we never want to live someone else’s dream.” – Lisa 
  • “I don’t think that opposites attract. I think having two people that have both feet in the world and are on the same page is the best combination of all.” – Lisa