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WHAT TO DO WHEN SOMEONE STOPS EMAILING

WHAT TO DO WHEN SOMEONE STOPS EMAILING

A big issue with online dating is that people often stop communicating abruptly and for no apparent reason.  Most of my clients just figure that the other person lost interest or that they must of done something to turn the other person off, and they give up.  As hard as it is not to take this stuff personally, you can’t let it get to you.  People stop writing for all kinds of reasons, none of them having to do with you.  Maybe they lost a job, are dealing with family issues, or just got bored .  Let’s be real.  Most of us don’t finish everything we start, especially when it comes to online dating.  When pressed, the same clients who complain about how other people dropped the ball on them admit that they have emails in their inbox that they haven’t answered.

So, let’s say that you started communicating with you were really excited about, and he or she stopped writing.  What can you do.  You can blow them off and just move on which is what a lot of people do, or you can say something.  If you felt like there was potential why wouldn’t you give it a try?  I wouldn’t suggest sending a second email, but one is worth a try.  The thing is that I want  you to stop playing it so safe and take some risks.  The fun in dating is being able to play and not be perfect all the time.  What better place to practice than in emails.  You have nothing to lost on a dating site with someone you’ve never met.  So get online, go through your inbox, and start emailing all those hot men and women who fell by the wayside.

Here are two examples of email threads from clients.  Hope they give you some inspiration.  They worked because they are provocative and playful.  That kind of energy is irresistable!

WonderWoman:

Since I haven’t heard from you, I thought you might have gotten kidnapped by pygmies and might need some help planning your escape.

SuperDude:

Hey!  I was just thinking about you last week, while bound and gagged!  How are you?  Can I give you a call on Monday?

WonderWoman:

LOL!  Just the way I like my men!  😉 You can reach me after 9pm.  I want to hear the whole story!

BeachGirl97
Hi, in case you hit your head and have temporary amnesia, I thought I would remind you of the cute, funny girl you were messaging…that would be ME!
rockclimberla
OMG, I did have amnesia.  Thanks for reminding me.  Can you ever forgive me?
BeachGirl97
If you take me to a nice dinner or buy me gifts, I am sure I can forgive anything.  But you have to hurry up and ask me out.  This email has an expiration date and will self-destruct within one week.  :-)

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WILD PARROTS AND DATING

WILD PARROTS AND DATING

 

 

So, what do wild parrots and dating have to do with one another?  I am going to tell you.  But first, in case you’re not from around here, it is useful to know that all over California there are flocks of wild parrots. They’re not native to the area, so dozens or even hundreds of birds must have either escaped or were released into the wild. When you live here, every once in awhile, you will stop and say, “Look!  There go the wild parrots!”

This morning, as I do every morning, I was walking my dogs, Milo (a.k.a. Milto, Monkey Punkin, and Myron) and his big bro, Cosmo (a.k.a. Cosmito, Cos Montaz, and Schlomo). My girl, Marianne Williamson, was yammering away on the earbuds that were connected to my iPhone.  I was listening to a lecture entitled, “The Journey Without,” which I’d downloaded from her website, iAmplify.com. Marianne was going to town as she usually does, telling me that I am just on the earth to love people.  I was all in my zone, spreading the love around, as she was saying that I have only one thing to do here and that’s love everybody.  Apparently, when my heart is closed, I miss the signals, and I’m not there to experience the love that’s right in front of me.

Just as Marianne said that bit about not experiencing what’s right in front of me, Milo lurched forward, nearly yanking my shoulder out of it’s socket.  Then, whoosh!  I saw a bright flash of green, yellow, and red as a wild parrot bolted from the bushes and took to the air.  It was so beautiful that I gasped and then laughed out loud.  Life had just played a little trick on me.  Expect the unexpected.  In 50 years I had never seen a parrot in the bushes, only in cages at the pet store or way up the sky.

This got me to thinking about surprises and how much I love them.  I mean, there you are, just moseying along in life, and out of nowhere, a wild parrot bolts from the bushes, or you sit down on an Internet date across from a stranger and two years later you’re married to the guy.  All those years of dating, one person after another, wondering if it would ever end and then, one day, he just shows up and sits down in front of me.  I think about all the agonizing I did along the way and then he just waltzes in and buys me dinner.  Just like that.  He flies into my world out of nowhere, just like that crazy little bird did.

So what’s the moral of this story?  Listen to more Marianne Williamson?  Possibly.  Get a parrot?  Couldn’t hurt.  Keep dating, opening your heart, and loving everyone around you?  Absolutely.  And remember, a husband in hand is worth two in the bush.

 

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Playful Internet Dating Banter

Playful Internet Dating Banter

Here are a couple of very funny email interactions from my best friend, Chloe, to two different men she was communicating with online. (If you haven’t read it already, I suggest reading her very funny profile in my posting from June 27th before proceeding.) Notice that her emails are mostly one-liners, she doesn’t pull any punches, and she isn’t afraid to get into a little sexual innuendo. Chloe is the ultimate Naked Dater! Hope you enjoy these as much as I did!

CACowboy2013 Profile (this is all he wrote):

I’m a very honest and upfront person. I am very outgoing, and I enjoy the outdoors. I work hard and I like to play hard. I like making people laugh and I’m very close with my family, and spoil my niece rotten…

Email interaction:

CACowboy:  We seem to have some things in common. Let me know if I pas the eye test…

beautifulparty:  You pass :-) What next?

CACowboy: Well, we can do the e-mail thing (not very personal) or we can chat on the phone, or if you are really daring we can go crazy and meet at Starbucks…

beautifulparty:  I pick Starbucks, what area do you live in?

CACowboy:  Woodland Hills.  We can meet in the middle.

beautifulparty:  Really? You don’t’ think I am worth a drive to Studio City 😉

CACowboy: Thought I was N. Hollywood. For sure you are worth it. What’s ur schedule tomorrow afternoon around 2:30?

 dannyboy4 Profile (excerpt):

I was dreaming when I wrote this, forgive me if it goes astray… I’m fun as heck to be around. I have a nose. I love gourmet food and skydiving, but not at the same time. I enjoy pretending to be sick and sneezing on people in public. Sometimes I’ll stay home and watch TV or read, other times I’ll go to a club and shake my “money maker” until 5am then go to a diner for flapjacks.(I love to call ’em flapjacks)It just depends on what phase of the moon we’re in. I know you can picture yourself having a blast with me. …

Email Interaction:

dannyboy4:  You were born in the nude, too? Let me find out if you have a nose and we’re off to Santorini!

beautifulparty:  Did you look at my pictures? What more proof do you need that I have a nose because I want my trip to Santorini!

dannyboy4:  Lots of ladies in LA get silicone noses. I know a doc who does them very real.

beautifulparty:  My nose IS the real deal; I might even let you touch it.

dannyboy4:  I give great nose.

beautifulparty: I’ll be the judge of that :-)

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ANOTHER WONDERFUL PROFILE

ANOTHER WONDERFUL PROFILE

I wrote this profile for a client about a year ago.  What’s interesting is that I really loved it but she didn’t use it.  I don’t know for certain why, but I think it described her to a tee and it might have felt too revealing for her at the time. When we spoke tonight, she told me that she was back on Match.com and asked if I still had the profile.  This time she loved it and said that she’s ready to put it up.

I used to be a tomboy.  Growing up in Guyana, I only played with boys.  I was tanned, skinny, and undisciplined.  Watch out because I’m still a feisty little tiger, and I still like to play with the boys.  I guess nothing much has changed.  I’m lively and I’m very fun to be around.  I’ll try almost anything.  I am an action sports kind of girl—I love everything from jet skiing to horseback riding.  As fun and silly as I can be, I also love more intellectual pursuits—reading, learning about other people’s cultures, discussing current events and world history, or rambling on about a variety of crazy topics.

You will find that I am loyal, loving, and affectionate.  I will be there for you through thick and thin.  I like helping out and caring for those I love.  When you have a personality like that and you are with someone who is the same, the possibilities are endless.  If I could meet someone that devoted and caring, I wouldn’t trade him for the world.  I would stand by him and work with him to get things done.

Okay.  Brace yourself.  Here are ten more adjectives that describe me:  out-going, playful, provocative, spontaneous, go-getter, ambitious, determined, passionate, never-a-dull-moment, unpredictable, and mischievous.  I am not the kind of person who pushes things under the carpet.  I want to know why are you pushing it there?  How long do you intend to leave it there?  Maybe it doesn’t need to be there?  I want answers.  I have to know.  I am an old soul with old-fashioned values, but I am also extremely playful.  I am the kind of woman who will say what I have to say, be supportive, and go for what I want and, at the same time, I can be soft and sensual and nurturing.  Like I said, I am a feisty tiger but, in the right hands, I can be as soft and vulnerable and a kitten.

I want to meet a man I can have fun with, someone who has a great sense of humor and loves to laugh and play.  It will be great if you are wise.  Open-mindedness and intelligence are also good qualities.  I love men who are willing to try new things, travel to new places, and try new kinds of cuisine.  Other things I admire are men who are good communicators, family-orientated, and honest.  Did I mention that I love romance?  But then again, who doesn’t?  You don’t have to be a millionaire, but it is important that you have a career you love and a good relationship with money.  I’m giving and I would love to meet someone who is giving, as well.  And even though I will probably give you hell sometimes, I hope you won’t want to change me.  If we argue, grab me, kiss me passionately, and I promise you that I will shut up.

How to Hook ‘Em With That First Email

HOW TO HOOK ‘EM WITH THAT FIRST EMAIL

Internet dating: isn’t it fun?  It can be if know how to have fun with it.  Don’t just  sit back and wait for people to contact you.  If you are male or female (especially if you’re female) reach out and contact the people you find attractive.  It’s a whole different world of dating today. What I tell my clients is to think of Internet dating like a huge single’s party.  Let’s say you were looking around the room and someone caught your eye.  You could never be sure who noticed whom first.  Maybe the other person had been checking you out seconds earlier.  The thing is to hook that other person’s attention and create a spark so they he or she will want to talk to you.  It’s the same with the Internet.  All you want to do is get the other person’s attention and make them want to know more.

Let’s take a look at a couple of examples of introductory emails that my best friend and I sent to some promising candidates that got immediate responses.

Hello Aussie Guy,

How’d you wind up in good old LA? You are absolutely adorable.  I see that you like “all things about being a man.”  I love all things about you being a man, too. And I can be quite a woman under the right circumstances. I also like what you said about helping each reach greater potential together. Although I have already reached my greatest potential at the ripe old age of 34, I can always help you get there ;-). No really, life is great at this end and would be even better shared with the right someone.

Would love to hear from you if you think we’re a match!

Chloe*

*(Name has been changed to protect the not-so-innocent)

 

Hi Guy Without Headline,

You are so cute, but not too cute!  (That’s a compliment.)  I am not a fashionista, so if that’s what you’re looking for, keep going!  But I have all the other things on your list.  I understand that you love art and architecture.  I grew up around the stuff but don’t know who’s who.  I would love for you to teach me more.  I am always open to learning and love an intelligent man who expand my world.  Is that you?

Chloe

Why were her emails so effective?  Because she knows how to “hook” a man’s attention.  Let’s see how:

Hook #1:  Create Sparks:  Chloe creates a kind of playful tension right from the very start.  “Hey Aussie Guy!”  Her first line is bold and provocative.  She says things a lot of people would think but not say, like the line about having already reached her potential at the age of 34.  There is something intriguing about a person who would do that.  People love people who challenge them.

Hook #2:  Flatter them:  She shows that she read their profiles.  She relates to what they said but not in an “Oh Look We Both Like to Hike” kind of way.  Again, she makes it funny, confident, and provocative.   “I’m not a fashionista, so if that’s what you’re looking for, keep going!”

Hook #3:  Give ’em What They Want:  She purposely tells men what they want to hear.  “I love a guy who can teach me more.  Is that you?”  She really means it, but she also knows that this is a hook.

Hook #4:  Sexual Overtone:  She says things like “I like all things about you being a man, too.  And I can be quite a woman under the right circumstances.”  If this guy is a healthy, hot-blooded male, he’s thinking she means sex.

If all your emails say is, “I liked your profile and think we have some things in common,” and you’re not getting responses, try to plant some hooks like the ones above.  Remember, you are looking for romance, not friendship.  Practice creating that playful, seductive spark.  If you are the kind of person who “is only playful after you get to know someone,” get over yourself.  The Internet is the best place in the world to practice getting out of your shell.  If you really can’t loosen up, have a glass of wine or get a fun friend to sit with you and write emails.  Keep throwing mud at the wall to see what sticks.

When I was a kid vacationing in Mexico with my family, my older brother once said, “Lisa, you are so intense.  I don’t know how any man is going to deal with you.”  Today my husband tells me that I am the most playful person he knows.  I didn’t just happen to meet the right guy.  I became a playful person and then I attracted the right guy to me.  It’s time to take risks, have some fun, and get naked!

 

She creates a lot of the sparks.  She is sparky.  She’s not waiting for someone else to light things up.

One of the Funniest and Most Forthright Profiles Ever!

One of the Funniest and Most Forthright Dating Profiles Ever!

My best friend and I wrote the following profile for her a couple of weeks ago.  I am reprinting it here with her permission.  She is getting some of the best responses I have ever seen from an online dating profile.  Men seem to LOVE her honesty, playfulness and humor.  This is Naked Dating at its finest!

Headline

 

The Best Thing That Ever Happened to You

 

About Me

     I was born nude, helpless, and unable to provide for myself. Not much has changed. Not really, but I thought it would be fun to say that. I’m smart, loyal, and dyslexic, not necessarily in that order. I am also a bad spellr. I’m mischievous. I like to get into trouble, but not the kind you can’t get out of. I’ve never gone to jail. I sound like a real catch so far, huh? Let’s keep going. I really don’t like to take things seriously, unless the situation calls for it. Otherwise, I love to joke, make fun of people, or be made fun of. I prefer to look at the humurous side of things, otherwise life is sooooooo boring. I love to find out about people and get to know who they are at their core. I have an appreciation for everyone’s uniqueness and like to bring that out. I am not very judgmental, so people feel comfortable revealing themselves to me. I like to make other people feel special, even if they’re not. If I keep going like this, I’m never going to get a date. But, on the other hand, if you don’t find this funny, we’re probably not a match. Which leads me to how gorgeous and humble I am–two of my finer qualities for sure. I am not your stereotypical “model” type or what you’ll find in most of the clubs here in LA. I’m not hard on the eyes, but I am more Marilyn Monroe than Audrey Hepburn. If you meet me and think I would be pretty if I lost 10 pounds, keep walking. I have two cats, so if you don’t like animals, that won’t work either. 

     Being in nature, especially the mountains, calms me. I like being in nature, but I do not like sleeping in nature. I love to hike and would like to find someone who will motivate me to hike more. I also would love to find someone who likes to lounge around. I love music but don’t like going to concerts. I never know who sang what song. I will always lose at that game, but I love to be around someone who knows these things. Food: need I say more? I own a small business and love what I do, but if I won the lottery tomorrow I’d find better ways to use my time. I am very accepting. I would like to be with someone who accepts me the way I am and who I can accept the way he is. It would be nice to meet a guy who actually took the time to read my profile, not that I’m going to read yours. 😉 I am not very materialistic. I much prefer thoughtfulness and experiences. If you gave me a credit card today, I would not go shopping. I would just buy my family some stuff, and probably get you some stuff, too. I like to think that what I bring to a relationship is that I am a deeply caring and generous person and I will do anything for the people I love.

      For me, the key thing in a relationship is trust, honesty, and open communication. I will want what’s best for you, and I would love it if you want what’s best for me. I believe that, if we have safety and trust in a relationship, then the world is our playground. Two people can have the freedom to do just about anything if they know that they’re there for each other. 

First Date

     You pick up me in your private jet and wisk me off to Santorini. We frolic on the beach and kiss in the moonlight. We feed each souvlaki and baklava with our fingers (which I don’t particularly like, but everything with you tastes better). Or, we can just meet at the corner Coffee Bean and take it from there.

LOVING COSMO

LOVING COSMO

It’s hard to believe that there was ever a time when I didn’t love Cosmo, but it’s true.  When he was a puppy, he was annoying because he kept trying to push his way in between Bobo, my 80-lb. Sharpei, and me.  Next to my husband, Benjamin, Bobo was the love of my life, and nothing was going to come between us, not even the world’s goofiest, floppiest, most adorable 8-wk-old Bernese Mountain Dog puppy.

I felt guilty, of course.  It wasn’t fair to the little guy for me to reject him.  I knew that.  I’m not a bad person.  But he was just too cute and perfect for my taste.  I would never have gotten a Bernese Mountain Dog.  I tend to like strange beauty; the stranger the better.  I am still trying to convince my husband to get me a hairless cat of my own who I will name Harry…but I digress…

That guilt I was talking about, well, it started to grow.  I knew I needed to bond with Cosmo but why did he have to eat the fingers off the beautiful, giant, antique Quan Yen sitting in the living room or when he chew the edges of the silk carpet my mother-in-law had bought us for our anniversary.  Still, he was part of the family now, and he deserved to be cherished by me as much as Bobo and Benjamin did.  So, I set an intention to fall in love with him.  I told myself, “You will find a place in your heart for this dog.”  

Maybe a dog isn’t the same as a person.  I don’t believe that, but some of you might.  I’ve loved some dogs better than many people.  Anyway, it’s easy to discount people or dogs or anything that doesn’t fit our preconceived idea of what’s attractive.  I did it with Cosmo and see my clients doing it all the time when I look through online profiles with them.  I find that very few clients, women or men, are willing to read the profile of someone they don’t immediately find physically attractive.  What each person finds physically attractive varies from client to client, but most of them won’t even look at the profile of someone they don’t find attractive.  There are several problems with this.

  1. Pictures can be deceiving.  Some people look way better in their profile photos than they do in person.  Others don’t look as good.  If you like someone’s profile, meet them for coffee.  It only take half an hour and it can change your life.

  2. People often become more attractive once we get to know them.  Once you see that devilish glint in someone’s eye, hear the music in someone’s laughter, or see the kindness someone’s heart, the illusion can shift and that person can become more physically attractive to you.

  3. You might not be seeing clearly.  It is easy to be blinded by physical attraction.  Most clients automatically project positive qualities on people they find attractive and negative qualities on people they don’t find attractive.  They also cut physically attractive people way more slack in general on things like their height, job, age, proximity, the depth and length of the profile, etc.  For example, they might write to someone they find attractive, even if he or she lives far away, but not to someone with a great profile who is not attractive.  In the end, what matters is who someone is on the inside.

  4. You will keep repeating the same patterns.  Without question, dating is the best way to break repeated relationship patterns.  If you keep going for the same “type,” that won’t happen.  You need to open yourself up to different types of situations and people to get a different result.  I had a client who liked blond, Barbie dolls.  He was physically attracted to them, but none of them could engage with him in deeper conversations.   I am not saying that all beautiful blonds are unintelligent.  It was just that he was just picking the same woman over and over again.  When he started to broaden his range, he met a wonderful woman with depth AND beauty who he has been seeing for the past year.

So, I am sure you are wondering if I was able to get over my prejudices and open my heart to Cosmo.  I did!  In fact, it’s hard to imagine a time when I didn’t think he was the sweetest and handsomest dog alive.  I don’t know what I would have done without Cosmo when Bobo died six years ago.  Recently, he’s taken to hanging out in my office with me all day long, while I write and see clients.  All day everyday, he lies by my feet and waits patiently for me (and sometimes not so patiently) for me to lean over and scratch his belly.  (He’s lying here right now, as I write this!)  Last year when he had a herniated disk in back, I was the one who took him to the vet and cried while I waited to find out if he’d ever walk again.  (Thanks to Dr. Farber at the VCA on Sepulveda and several rounds of acupuncture and vitamin B shots, Cosmo is better than ever!)  I love this dog with all my heart and I couldn’t imagine life without him. 

So, the next time someone writes you a great email but doesn’t look like your type, see if you can set an intention to get past the physical illusion and meet for coffee with an open mind and heart.  Life is full of surprises if open to receiving them.

 

IS THE GOLDEN AGE OF INTERNET DATING OVER?

Is the golden age of Internet dating over?           Well…yes and no.

Here’s why I feel that Internet dating may have peaked.  When I was dating eleven years ago, online dating felt very different than it does today.  People were just getting accustomed to the idea of looking for a partner online, so there were far fewer people on the sites and they seemed much more serious and well-mannered.  We might not have gotten as many hits back then, but if someone sent you an email he usually followed through with a phone call or a date.  What’s more, people didn’t have those elaborate menageries of 20 to 30 photographs (Am I crazy or does this seem a bit excessive?) and their photos weren’t as overtly sexual.  Sometimes, when I am looking through profiles with clients today, I wonder if many of these people are aware that all they’re really promoting–and, therefore, all they will keep attracting–is sex.  When all is said and done, it seems to me that people were more considerate, discreet, and serious in the early days of online dating.

Today, the number of people online is exponentially higher so most online daters either feel overwhelmed or like kids candy store.  Some genuinely find it challenging to keep up with all the emails they receive.  Others drop one person like a hot tamale the minute someone better comes along.  It is also not uncommon for people to ask for phone numbers and never call or mention going out on a date and then never arrange one.   Another major issue is that many online daters are just looky-loos (love that word).  They go online for those free weekends, contact a bunch of people, and then drop off the site before my clients have even read their emails.   Finally, some online dating websites have been accused of leaving up profiles of people who are no longer active or producing fake profiles in order to lure customers.  All of these issues can weigh heavy on people who are genuinely trying to find a partner online.

So, does this all mean that online dating is over and done?  Not hardly!  Statistics show that people continue to meet online and in record numbers.  Match.com says that 1 in 5 relationships and 1 in 6 marriages start online today.    Also, people who meet online marry after 18 months.  Those who meet offline tend to marry after 42.5 months.  There is no question that Internet dating works or that it is here to stay. 

Even if you do not meet the love of your life online, anyone who is a serious dater needs to be on two dating sites for at least six months.  Especially if you are re-entering the dating world after many years, going online is the easiest way to get out there and start brushing up on your dating skills.  Think of Internet dating like a huge virtual singles party, one you can attend in the safety and comfort of your own home.  You can wink at people across the virtual universe and practice flirting via instant message or emails.  There are millions of people online, so if you aren’t getting the kind of responses you want, you can keep fine-tuning your approach.  You can rewrite your profile, take new pictures, and practice being lighter and funnier in your correspondence.  Once you gain some confidence online, your energy will start to shift.  You will become more open and communicative, and you will naturally start attracting more people in your day-to-day life.  Best of all, you might actually meet someone online, fall in love, and spend the rest of your lives together.  Hey, it happens all the time!

 

 

Does Online Dating Work?

Does Online Dating Work?

According to an article that ran In Discovery News, it definitely does!

“In fact, the Internet has become one of the most popular places for people to meet, according to the 2010 large-scale survey How Couples Meet and Stay Together.  (Online dating) definitely works,” said Reuben J. Thomas, an assistant professor of sociology at the City University of New York, who collaborated on the survey. “We estimate that 23 percent of the couples in the U.S. who met in the two years from 2007 to 2009 met online. More people meet online now than meet through school, work, church, bars, parties, et cetera.”

“Online dating sites are all about bringing people together, and sometimes it forms this illusion that with a few clicks of the mouse you can find your soul mate,” Rutgers communications assistant professor Jennifer Gibbs said. “But really, that’s just the first step, and to get to know the person there’s a process of developing a relationship.”

Click here to read the entire article:  Does Online Dating Work

Online dating isn’t the answer to all our dating problems.  It only gets the ball rolling by helping you connect with a wider range of other available singles.  You get to email, IM, and flirt with people all from the comfort  of your own home.  No more need to scour single’s parties, gyms, or bars to meet people.

Internet dating can seem dry and impersonal to some of you, but it is here to stay.  I wouldn’t knock it.  Almost every client I’ve had has complained about Internet dating, only to eventually meet someone online.  It takes time and energy like anything else you do in life.  Don’t expect miracles.  Don’t expect  to put your profile up and get slammed with emails, especially if you are over 45.  Unless you post overtly sexual photos, you might won’t get many emails.  This happens with a lot of my clients.  But these are the clients who eventually meet someone.

Don’t give up.  Slow and steady wins the race.  But while you are out there, don’t keep doing the same things over and over again, expecting different results.  Keep trying new things.  If you aren’t getting hits, hire a professional photographer.  If you are struggling to write your profile, hire a professional writer or have a friend come over and help you write it.  Also, practice making your emails funny and playful.  Humor is very attractive.  You don’t have to be haha funny; try being witty or silly.  What you put out is what you will attract.  If you want a someone to play and laugh with, you need to use the right bait.

As the article says, getting a date is just the beginning.  Once you meet someone, you have to know how to turn that initial connection into a relationship.  This is where the real work begins.  Many people are getting dates online but they don’t know how to create a connection on a date.  If you are struggling to get to the next level, hire a professional coach to help you.  When many of my clients come to me, they can’t get past a first date.  I show my clients all kinds of ways to connect in an emotionally intimate way with their dates and create a connection that can, and often does, turn into a lasting relationship.  I teach my clients Naked Dating.  They learn how to open their hearts and share in a vulnerable and emotionally intimate way.  Almost every single client who works with me comes back and says that the coaching isn’t just helping them with dating, it helps them improve every relationship in their lives.

If you are single and struggling to meet someone, call me today for a sample session and see what Naked Dating can do for you!  And look for my upcoming book:  Naked Dating: Finding True Love with Nothing to Hide

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