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WHAT TO DO WHEN SOMEONE STOPS EMAILING

WHAT TO DO WHEN SOMEONE STOPS EMAILING

A big issue with online dating is that people often stop communicating abruptly and for no apparent reason.  Most of my clients just figure that the other person lost interest or that they must of done something to turn the other person off, and they give up.  As hard as it is not to take this stuff personally, you can’t let it get to you.  People stop writing for all kinds of reasons, none of them having to do with you.  Maybe they lost a job, are dealing with family issues, or just got bored .  Let’s be real.  Most of us don’t finish everything we start, especially when it comes to online dating.  When pressed, the same clients who complain about how other people dropped the ball on them admit that they have emails in their inbox that they haven’t answered.

So, let’s say that you started communicating with you were really excited about, and he or she stopped writing.  What can you do.  You can blow them off and just move on which is what a lot of people do, or you can say something.  If you felt like there was potential why wouldn’t you give it a try?  I wouldn’t suggest sending a second email, but one is worth a try.  The thing is that I want  you to stop playing it so safe and take some risks.  The fun in dating is being able to play and not be perfect all the time.  What better place to practice than in emails.  You have nothing to lost on a dating site with someone you’ve never met.  So get online, go through your inbox, and start emailing all those hot men and women who fell by the wayside.

Here are two examples of email threads from clients.  Hope they give you some inspiration.  They worked because they are provocative and playful.  That kind of energy is irresistable!

WonderWoman:

Since I haven’t heard from you, I thought you might have gotten kidnapped by pygmies and might need some help planning your escape.

SuperDude:

Hey!  I was just thinking about you last week, while bound and gagged!  How are you?  Can I give you a call on Monday?

WonderWoman:

LOL!  Just the way I like my men!  😉 You can reach me after 9pm.  I want to hear the whole story!

BeachGirl97
Hi, in case you hit your head and have temporary amnesia, I thought I would remind you of the cute, funny girl you were messaging…that would be ME!
rockclimberla
OMG, I did have amnesia.  Thanks for reminding me.  Can you ever forgive me?
BeachGirl97
If you take me to a nice dinner or buy me gifts, I am sure I can forgive anything.  But you have to hurry up and ask me out.  This email has an expiration date and will self-destruct within one week.  :-)

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Playful Internet Dating Banter

Playful Internet Dating Banter

Here are a couple of very funny email interactions from my best friend, Chloe, to two different men she was communicating with online. (If you haven’t read it already, I suggest reading her very funny profile in my posting from June 27th before proceeding.) Notice that her emails are mostly one-liners, she doesn’t pull any punches, and she isn’t afraid to get into a little sexual innuendo. Chloe is the ultimate Naked Dater! Hope you enjoy these as much as I did!

CACowboy2013 Profile (this is all he wrote):

I’m a very honest and upfront person. I am very outgoing, and I enjoy the outdoors. I work hard and I like to play hard. I like making people laugh and I’m very close with my family, and spoil my niece rotten…

Email interaction:

CACowboy:  We seem to have some things in common. Let me know if I pas the eye test…

beautifulparty:  You pass :-) What next?

CACowboy: Well, we can do the e-mail thing (not very personal) or we can chat on the phone, or if you are really daring we can go crazy and meet at Starbucks…

beautifulparty:  I pick Starbucks, what area do you live in?

CACowboy:  Woodland Hills.  We can meet in the middle.

beautifulparty:  Really? You don’t’ think I am worth a drive to Studio City 😉

CACowboy: Thought I was N. Hollywood. For sure you are worth it. What’s ur schedule tomorrow afternoon around 2:30?

 dannyboy4 Profile (excerpt):

I was dreaming when I wrote this, forgive me if it goes astray… I’m fun as heck to be around. I have a nose. I love gourmet food and skydiving, but not at the same time. I enjoy pretending to be sick and sneezing on people in public. Sometimes I’ll stay home and watch TV or read, other times I’ll go to a club and shake my “money maker” until 5am then go to a diner for flapjacks.(I love to call ’em flapjacks)It just depends on what phase of the moon we’re in. I know you can picture yourself having a blast with me. …

Email Interaction:

dannyboy4:  You were born in the nude, too? Let me find out if you have a nose and we’re off to Santorini!

beautifulparty:  Did you look at my pictures? What more proof do you need that I have a nose because I want my trip to Santorini!

dannyboy4:  Lots of ladies in LA get silicone noses. I know a doc who does them very real.

beautifulparty:  My nose IS the real deal; I might even let you touch it.

dannyboy4:  I give great nose.

beautifulparty: I’ll be the judge of that :-)

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THOSE PESKY PHONE CALLS

Those Pesky Phone Calls:

Why they’re important and

how to keep ’em short

 

While more and more people are resorting to emails, instant messages, and texts to set up dates, it is a big mistake not to talk to someone on the phone once before you meet.  You might think this is obvious, but it’s not.  You would be shocked at the number of people who simply don’t talk on the phone these days.  Why is a phone call so important?  For one thing, we can’t edit our thoughts as easily on the when we are speaking as we can in an email or text.  You can also learn to tell a lot about a person’s state of mind just from the tone and speed of their voice.  It’s not as easy as we think to hide our fear, negativity, or anxiety when we speak.  In the longrun, you will save yourself time and energy by screening people on the phone prior to meeting for a date, and you won’t burn out on dating as easily.

That said, you want to keep the conversation short.  In fact, you don’t need to sit on the phone chatting for long periods with someone you haven’t met.  A 5-15 minute conversation is sufficient to introduce yourself, exchange a few pleasantries, and set a date.  My husband and I had one short email exchange and a 5-minute phone call before we met.  Use an egg timer if you have a tendency to talk too long.  When the time is up, don’t just cut the other person off and say, “I have to go.”  This can seem abrupt.  Remember, in dating-related situations, people can feel way more sensitive than usual.  Here are a few guidelines for good phone etiquette:

1.  If you need to interrupt someone who is going on and on say:

“May I pause you for a moment?”

2.  Then say:

“Thank you for your time.  Unfortunately, I have to run.”

3.  Whether you are male or female, if you enjoyed the interaction, you can say:

“I really enjoyed talking to you and would love to continue our conversation.  Perhaps we

could do this over coffee or a drink.”  If the other person agrees, set a date on the spot.  Say:  “Would you like to set a date now?”

4.  If you decide you don’t want to go on a date with this person, you can do one of two things:

Option 1:  If you are feeling like a very bold Naked Dater, you could say: “Thanks for your

time.  Unfortunately, I don’t think we’re a match.  I wish you the best in your search.”

Option 2:  If that feels uncomfortable, you can take a gentler route and say: “We might be

able to pick this up at another time.”  (Note the use of the word “might.”)  Then, when you

get off the phone you can send an email and say:  “I enjoyed talking to you but I don’t think we’re a match.  Good luck in your search.”

Thanks for reading!  Go forth and date naked!

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