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December, 2017

Fall in LOVE this New Year!

Heartbreak-Social-Banner----LisaShieldWhen you were a little girl, do you remember how free you felt and how you dreamed of falling in love and having a perfect relationship?

Then as you grew up, you went through a series of heartbreaking relationships that each left you feeling a little more hopeless and alone.

Well, I’m here to tell you that you’re not alone. We’ve all been there, and we’re in this TOGETHER!

I vividly remember going through some awful relationships in my life. But fast forward to today, and things are VERY different. However, it did take time and I had to discover the RIGHT tools to get me through.

Oh, what I would have given for a HELPING hand during those times!

That’s why, when my good friend and colleague, Rebecca Boatman, invited me to speak on her free web series, I gave a resounding “YES!!!”. I know how hard it can be to heal from bad relationships and I felt compelled to SHARE my experience, strength, and hope with YOU.

This is our hand reaching out to you because we know that YOU are worthy of YOUR dream relationship, and we want to help you find it.

I’ve kindly asked for Rebecca to save you a seat and she gave a resounding “YESSS!!!” right back at me.

Click here to grab your FREE seat!

Rebecca, the founder and CEO of The Brave Lady, has brought together an amazing team of experts (including yours truly) to discuss healing your broken heart so you can love AGAIN!

Come watch leading experts, authors, coaches, doctors, biologists, and more and find out how you can attract your dream partner!

Click here to grab your FREE seat!

This series is FILLED with golden nuggets to help you shift into a powerful life filled with love and joy. Let’s start 2018 with a BANG and make it the year you’ll never forget!

In this free series you’ll learn how to:

  • Break free from heartache so that you can love again!

  • Start dating again to attract the RIGHT guys!

  • Move through a breakup feeling empowered and confident.

  • Start attracting an abundance of men that are a match for you!

You’ll also receive 21 gifts valued at over $5,000 from all of the speakers (including myself)!

These interviews are designed specifically to be content-rich and easy-listening to make this easy, fun, and educational for YOU!

If your heart is calling you to experience the relationship of your dreams, then this event is perfect for you!

See you there!

XO,


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P.S. My talk is on January 5, 2018 and I’d love for you to be there, but be sure to watch as many of these INCREDIBLE interviews as you can (did I mention there are gifts?). You never know what’s the one nugget that will completely change your life!

Click here to grab your FREE seat!

 

How I met my husband & how YOU can too!

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If you’ve been dating for any length of time, then you know the struggle is real.

It’s hard to find a great man who is emotionally available and looking for a long-term commitment that leads to marriage.

You may feel like giving up your happy ending is the only option. You may believe you’re destined to be alone for the rest of your life.

But if you want to find and marry Mr. Right, then it IS possible…I promise!

My friend Suzanne Oshima, Matchmaker & Dating Coach, is on a mission to prove that to you, and she’s inviting you to her complimentary online video series, How She Met Her Husband & How You Can Too!

It starts January 2nd, and brings together over 21 women, including myself, who are sharing our real-life love stories — including all the heartbreak and romantic challenges we overcame to get to the happy endings!

Grab your spot here:

How She Met Her Husband…
& How You Can Too!
=> Save Your Spot Here! 
Complimentary Summit

 

If you’re still looking for lasting love, then this isn’t the last chapter in your love story.

No matter where you are in your life — no matter your age, heartbreak, or how long you’ve been out there dating — you can write the next chapter, and you can make it wonderful!

When you join us for How She Met Her Husband & How You Can Too!, you’ll hear real-life love stories that prove you can find lasting love again, too!

You’ll hear:

    • Inspiring real love stories that include heartbreak, challenges, and of course, triumph, so you can see that finding love and marriage is possible, no matter where you are or what you’ve been through.

 

  • How to turn your love life around, by putting an end to negative repeating patterns that keep you in an endless loop of bad relationships.

 

    • What men really want in all stages of relationships, from dating to marriageso you can stop second guessing yourself and get into a lasting relationship with the right man.

 

  • How you can get married no matter your age… even if you’ve never been married before!
  • And much more!

Grab your spot here:

How She Met Her Husband…
& How You Can Too!
=> Save Your Spot Here! 
Complimentary Summit

In short, you’ll walk away inspired and motivated to take a new approach to dating and marriage, knowing real, lasting love IS possible — and YOU can have that happy ending, too!

Suzanne is the perfect person to host this summit, because as a Matchmaker & Dating Coach for both men and women, she’s seen firsthand the disconnect between what men want, and what women think men want.

She’s helped her own clients achieve happy ending success, and now she’s bringing together a great list of guests and experts to reveal the path to true, lasting love and marriage!

Again, you can attend this interview series at no cost! Just sign up here to attend How She Met Her Husband & How You Can Too! Starting on January 2nd:

How She Met Her Husband…
& How You Can Too!
=> Save Your Spot Here!
Complimentary Summit

 Write The Next Chapter Of Your Love Story!

To finding real love,

XO,

Why Are the People We’re Attracted to Not Attracted to Us?

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Why don’t the people we’re attracted to find us attractive while the people we don’t find attractive are attracted to us? This is one of the GREAT dating conundrums of all time. Luckily, there’s actually a very SIMPLE explanation.

Most often, when we feel attracted to someone, we become NERVOUS, self-conscious, or even NEEDY, and we stop being ourselves. In other words, when you want someone to like you, all of your insecurities come bubbling up to the surface and cause you to question why THEY would want to date someone like YOU.

  • “Am I PRETTY enough to date someone like him?”

  • “Am I SUCCESSFUL enough to get a woman like her?”

  • “A guy like that doesn’t need to date a woman with 2 YOUNG KIDS.”

  • “A woman that hot would want a guy with a 6-PACK.”

Try this. Close your eyes and imagine yourself on a date with a friend that you like but don’t find particularly attractive. How do you feel? Indifferent? Turned off? In control?

Now imagine you’re on a date with someone who gives you butterflies in the pit of your stomach. How does THAT make you feel? Excited? At ease? Self-conscious?

Even the most confident person would find it IMPOSSIBLE to be authentic in the moment if they’re feeling self-conscious and insecure.

Do you remember the plot twist from Sex in the City, the one where Big met a woman who treated him the way he treated Carrie? It was a BRILLIANT piece of screenwriting. It was amazing to see this man who SEEMED to be the embodiment of self-confidence scrambling for the right things to say and do. He was so DESPERATE that he even called Carrie for advice!

Because it can be so SCARY to take off our masks, get Emotionally Naked, and let someone see who we truly are, many people default to using SEX as their main way of creating a connection. Over the past 15 years, I have coached many women and men who are well-versed in the art of SEDUCTION. They know how to put on an act and create a SEXUAL connection, but they don’t know how to create a deep, authentic EMOTIONAL connection on a date.

So, how do you start to become comfortable getting Emotionally Naked and connecting with the people you find attractive? My free online workshop is a great place to start.

If you’re looking for a few techniques you can use right away to feel more attractive, here are some additional tips:

1. Start to Recognize Your Fears: When you’re sitting on a date and you feel intimidated by someone, listen to what your FRENEMY (aka inner critic) is telling you. It will make comments like the ones I listed above. It doesn’t matter if your date thinks you’re overweight or not successful enough. You need to recognize that the REAL issue is that YOU believe these things about yourself.

Identifying your fears is the FIRST STEP to letting them go. Write them down. Then ask the universe for them to be RELEASED. You don’t have to know HOW this works. Sometimes declaring that you are ready to let your fears go and ASKING the universe for help is ALL you need to do. Really.

2. Tune into Your Naked Dater: If YOU listen to your Frenemy, it WILL sabotage your dating. But you have another voice inside. I call it your NAKED DATER. Your Naked Dater is the voice of your HIGHER SELF or Inner Wisdom. The more you tune into this loving, compassionate voice, the BETTER you will feel about yourself as you date.

I encourage all of my clients to give their Naked Dater a name. Mine is called Pantanjali. You can call yours Wilma, Fred, Merlin, Dumbledore, or Oprah. Whatever works for YOU. Just have FUN with it. Start listening to this loving, nurturing, positive part of yourself. You might actually like what it has to say!

Your Naked Dater will tell you:

  • “The RIGHT person will accept you EXACTLY the way you are. That’s who you want to be with.”

  • “Even if you aren’t at your optimal weight, YOU can be SEXY at any weight. It’s all about attitude.”

  • “You are a good person and I love you NO matter what.”

  • “Nobody’s perfect. When you love someone, you love the WHOLE person.”

3. Change Your Body Language: Before you meet your date, stand up STRAIGHT, pull your shoulders BACK and EXPAND the energy in your chest. This is a POWER stance. Anytime you get in your head and start to feel insecure during the date, remember a PEAK moment in your life, then sit up tall, open up the energy in your chest and SMILE.

If you want even MORE support, click here to join my private Facebook Group, Dating Without Drama,where other men and women just like you are supporting each other in their search for lasting love.

But even more importantly, if you’re TRULY ready to meet The One and you don’t want to WASTE another second spinning your wheels and trying to figure this out on your own, let’s set up a 1-hour consult and see if coaching is right for you!  There’s NO reason to spend another second agonizing over this. Dating is a journey. Let me be your guide.


XO,


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Do YOU Sabotage Dates Because You’re NOT Ready for Love?

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I have no doubt that my husband, Benjamin, would NOT have been attracted to me when I first started dating 17 years ago. But the dating process helped me open my heart and get a handle on my emotions. Dating SHAPED me into the woman he fell in love with in that magic moment when we met two years and 100 first dates later.

When I started dating again, I approached it as a SPIRITUAL JOURNEY. I decided to see each interaction as an OPPORTUNITY to learn to open my heart wider and become a more loving person.

When I looked at others in the dating world, I watched as their hearts and minds became less open with each disappointing date, and the road ahead of them grew NARROWER.

As I dated, I wanted the road ahead to get WIDER. I wanted to become MORE openhearted, MORE open-minded, and MORE compassionate with each date.

If a man was unkind or disappointed me in some way, rather than get angry or blame him for what happened, I told myself that he didn’t owe me anything. He was doing me a favor by making space for the RIGHT MAN to come into my life.

After a while, I stopped caring why certain men behaved the way they did. It really didn’t matter. I knew how I wanted a man to treat me, I knew he was out there, and I was willing to keep dating until I found him.

None of this was any easier for me than it is for you. I wanted a partner more than I have ever wanted anything in my life. Facing one rejection after another was terribly painful, but the more I was willing to learn from my mistakes and focus on keeping my heart and mind open, the easier it got. I can show you how to do this. Check out my online workshop to learn more.

Today, I’m ABSOLUTELY CLEAR that everything I went through when I dated prepared me for the relationship of my dreams. By using my dating experience to work through my DRAMA, I wound up attracting an AMAZING man and together we have been able to create a relationship that is EVEN BETTER than anything I could have imagined!

I watch so many singles FLOUNDER in the dating world and become increasingly angry, disappointed, and discouraged when things don’t go the way they EXPECT them to.

What this tells me is that they still have WORK to do to prepare for The One. They need to learn how to HUMBLE themselves, SURRENDER to the process, and let each date TEACH them how to open their hearts to love and be loved. Maybe this speaks to you?

There is a BIG difference between thinking you are emotionally available and ready for the relationship of your dreams and truly being ready to meet The One. When you’re REALLY ready, you WILL know.

So, here’s my question for you:

Do you truly believe YOU are emotionally ready for the kind of relationship you want?

If that person walked into your life RIGHT NOW, do you have an OPEN HEART and are your fears of trusting someone or being rejected or abandoned UNDER CONTROL?

Or, would you SABOTAGE IT by reacting and pushing the person away the moment they let you down?

Warm Regards,


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P.S.  Don’t forget to check out my Free Online Workshop!

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