March, 2013

Your Inner Child, by “Naked” Dating & Relationship Expert, Lisa Shield

“It’s never too late to have a happy childhood.” –Tom Robbins

All of us have an Inner Child. Yep, you read me right: There’s a part of us that still needs love and goodparenting.  Learning how to create a strong connection with this aspect of yourself is essential to becoming a Naked Dater.  In the second half of this article I will give you a technique that will show you how build this bond, but first let’s look at who this Inner Child is and why it’s so important for you to learn how to communicate with it.

So who is this Inner Child?

“We can bury it, distort it, handicap it, make it sick, but we can’t get rid of it.”
–Recovery of Your Inner Child

In the 60s and 70s, experts Hugh Missildine and Eric Berne introduced the idea of an Inner Child.  Nice work guys!  Even though most of us like to think of ourselves as mature and capable adults, Missildine and Berne believed there’s a child living in all of us that still needs parenting.  But here’s the kicker: Not only do we continue to need parenting, we are actually the ones who need to become our own parents.

Wait…what? read more

Become closer to yourself, schedule a valuable session today

Lisa Shield, MA, CPCC
Transformational Dating and Relationship Coach
(323) 939-1770

Sex and the City Revisited: After the Economic Crisis

“Carrie: Honey, if it hurts so much, why are we going shopping?
Samantha: I have a broken toe, not a broken spirit.”

–Sex and the City

Most women over thirty just aren’t that open to going out to meet men after they’ve been running errands all day or working ten hours straight.  We’d rather curl up with a good book or the dog.  Or maybe, we’d kick back on the sofa watching Sex andthe City reruns.  We would marvel at Carrie and the Gang’s endless ability to dress up, socialize, and trawl for men, and wonder,  “Where do they get all that energy?”  Even if we had their mysterious incomes and teams of stylists, we’d be so exhausted from all the shopping and grooming that we wouldn’t have the oomph to dress up and go out.  So, we’d have a friend come over and watch Sex and the City reruns instead.

But there’s another problem: as we’ve grown older and, hopefully, wiser, Carrie and the Gang have remained immortal.  Now, watching them rush around like there’s no tomorrow and over analyze their lives…read more

Become closer to your partner, schedule a valuable 1-hour session today

Lisa Shield, MA, CPCC
Transformational Dating and Relationship Coach
(323) 939-1770

A Recent Success Story

You might find this surprising, but a third of my dating and relationship coaching clients are men.  People don’t expect me to have so many men in my practice because women are the ones who most often seek out the help of a coach or therapist.  I have to admit, I would never have expected to be coaching so many members of the opposite sex, but I feel honored to work with each and every one of them.

Men come to me to coach them on every aspect of relationship.  They come for dating advice.  They come with their significant partners to work on a current relationship.  And, they come on their own to become better partners to their current wives and partners.  I treasure my male clients and I have developed a deep respect for who they are and for the unique challenges they face in their lives and relationships.  My male coaching clients seem to be deeply committed to understanding the women in their lives and to becoming the best partners they can possibly be.  Many of my male clients have told me that they feel that I understand who they are and what they’re up against.   Because I coach so many men, I have a unique ability to help my male clients to better understand women and my female clients to better understand men.  If you would like to sign up for a free sample session to see how I can help you, please click here.

This week I received a touching letter from one of my former male clients.  With his permission, I would like to share it with you.

Hi Lisa,

How are you? Been a while!  Just wanted to shoot over an email and say hello. I was thinking about you the other day and thought I’d drop you a quick note. Things are really going well with me, and I am happy to report I’ve been dating a WOMAN (not girl!) for a few months now and she’s incredible.    I think about the time spent with you in many of our sessions even a year later. Going over so many of the details and pieces of my life that I needed to work on. I am still doing those things today. In fact, today (my girlfriend) Jeanette emailed me that a few of her girlfriends (who are having “men problems”) were asking her “Why Dan is such a special guy?” Jeanette told them it was because I make her feel desired, special, sexy, feminine, loved, understood, cared for, and much, much more. How awesome is that? Talk about a 180 from where I was two years ago!  When she sent this to me and told me her response to her girlfriends, I grinned and thought to myself “Lisa Shield would want to hear this one.”

I remember walking in to your office as a complete ball of confusion. I remember not caring about how I presented myself. I remember feeling beat up emotionally/mentally after a roller-coaster of a relationship, and wondering what I did wrong. I’ve definitely turned that corner. I still continue to work on ME, but if not for you helping me, I don’t know where I’d be. So thank you BIG TIME.

I hope you know that what you did and have done for me, helped me with, and what you expressed to me was EXACTLY what I needed. I am so thankful for your help and words to build me up, and I can only imagine you are getting this type of continual positive response from plenty of your clients.

Hope all is well. Please tell your husband I say hello. It goes without saying, but he’s a lucky guy to have you in his life!



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Lisa Shield, MA, CPCC
Transformational Dating and Relationship Coach
(323) 939-1770

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