My Boyfriend Didn’t Give Me a Valentine
My boyfriend and I met online about 6 months ago. He’s a great guy. In fact, everything has been going really well. He even mentioned that we should move in together when the time is right, so I know he wants to build a relationship with me. But then, on Valentine’s Day, I felt like we slammed into a wall going 350 miles an hour. Lisa, he didn’t get me anything—no flowers, no gift, not even a card! To make matters worse, a couple of the girls at work made comments like, “Aren’t you dating someone?” And, “Where are your flowers?” I felt so humiliated. The thing is that we had gone to Tahoe the weekend before to “celebrate Valentine’s Day,” but we split everything, so it didn’t feel like much of a celebration to me. Besides, I had told I had gotten him a gift and that I was excited to give it to him, so he must have known I was expecting him to get me something. I don’t know if I can get over this. What do I do?
I get why you are so disappointed. Most women want to feel like a princess on Valentine’s Day. Still, you cannot let one event define an entire relationship. You have had six wonderful months with this man and you need to take that into account. You also need to remember that everyone makes mistakes. One day you are going to make a mistake. You can count on it. How you handle this situation will set a precedent for your entire relationship. You can choose to approach things like an adult. This would mean telling him how you felt, letting him know what you would like from him going forward, and then letting it go. Or, you can hold a grudge and let it eat away at you. The choice is yours.