In a great article that ran today in The Christian Post, author Elton Jones talks about the value of niche Internet dating sites. He quotes me quite a bit, so please check it out!
Here’s the link: Christian Dating Sites Growing in Popularity
Internet dating is the best thing that has ever happened to dating, and niche sites make it even easier to zero in on someone who is right for you. If you’re looking for a life partner, is is important to look for someone who shares the same foundational principals and ideals as you do. Even if you feel that you do not relate to your religious or cultural upbringing today, things like religion and culture have an important and inescapable impact on shaping your worldview. I can assure you that it will be much easier to navigate the unpredictable landscape of a lifelong romantic relationship with a partner who shares a similar upbringing and value system to yours.
I was raised Jewish, but when I was younger, I refused to date Jewish men. I felt that they weren’t a fit for me. When I went online 10 years ago, I decided to date “closer to home” and see what would happen. I joined Jdate.com and was surprised by how familiar and comfortable dating a Jewish man felt. They were like family which was exactly what I had been looking for all my life. I realized that by refusing to date Jewish men, I had been rejecting an important part of who I am at my core. Even if I don’t got to temple and practice my religion in any way, it played a key role in shaping the way I see the world.
There were still certain qualities I didn’t want in a partner that I associated with being Jewish. I wasn’t looking for someone terribly religious or who kept kosher, for example. But I figured there had to be someone out there who was Jewish like me. There was! Neither my husband nor I have set foot in a temple since we met. We weren’t even married in one. Still, we’re Jewish at our core. We share a similar perspective on life that goes back generations upon generations. We connect with our hearts and, even more importantly, we share a soul connection that cannot be put into words.
I understand that some religious and cultural backgrounds are oppressive and that there are very real reasons why some people choose to marry outside those bounds. You have to choose what feels right for yourself but, very often, there are people within your own culture or religious background who feel the same way you do. Try to seek them out.
I once had a client who was an Armenian punk rocker. He didn’t think that there could possibly be someone out there who would get him. The very first woman he went out with online, a woman he described to me as “the most beautiful woman he had ever seen,” turned out to be Armenian and she loved punk rock. The last time I spoke to him, they were engaged to be married.
There are niche sites for everyone. Here are just a few: ChristianMingle.com, JDate.com, WeWaited.com, DateMyPet.com, AdultFriendFinder.com, 420Dating.com, SeniorPeopleMeet.com, BabyBoomerPeopleMeet.com, VeggieConnection.com, GreenSingles.com, DemocraticSingles.com, SugarDaddie.com, IvyDate.com… The list goes on and on and on…